Yesterday Mothers Grace received an application for aid for a family where the young father of 2 boys is fighting stage 4 sarcoma. He and his wife followed their hearts and are teachers in the Charter School system in AZ. The Father was receiving chemo and radiation for his Sarcoma and instead of getting better he has gotten worse and now the cancer has metastasized to his brain. He is no longer able to work, and his wife is working, caring for him and their boys.
I have mentioned before that Cancer is like a financial tornado for families. When I went through cancer 4 1/2 years ago my Husband and I were very well employed with a primary and secondary insurance and a decent savings account. Within 4 years we were pretty much wiped out! We had medical bills way outside of what insurance covered, between myself and my diabetic son we had 12 prescriptions per month at $20 copay and that was probably the smallest bill. I was able to work but soon developed such low white counts that it was too dangerous for me to be on the road which is primarily where I spent my time. I left my job and shortly after my Husband lost his job. Cancer causes worlds to turn upside down, and I can only imagine what this young family must be facing emotionally, let alone financially. (we all know of the selfless time teachers devote to their careers for so little pay) It would be so nice if some of the financial stress could be removed in the face of such overwhelming emotional crisis, and that is what Mothers Grace wishes to accomplish.
The only way that we heard of this lovely family is through the grace of their friend that found us via Facebook and nominated them for aid. The Mom that nominated them, researched us, filled out the application and took the chance and contacted us, not knowing Mothers Grace at all. She is busy too, she is a working mom, and like all of us, we get sad when we hear these stories and we want to help, but how many of us reach out and try to bring aid to these families? We don’t know what to do, what to say, how to behave. Yesterday a friend of a friend called me as she had just been diagnosed with breast cancer, she was scared and upset! She said many of her friends were not even calling, because they didn’t know what to say. Just remember you don’t have to say much, you just have to let your friends know you care, bake them something, send them a card, take a burden off of their shoulders so they can concentrate on the crisis at hand! And God Bless the friends that “take the time” to organize something on behalf of their friends overwhelming crisis. Remember is is not always about donating money, many times it slowing down and really being there for someone in crisis and all we have to do is listen and be led!
“It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.”
― Mother Teresa